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How To Crack The Boundaries Code

George Kalantzis
15 min readMar 18, 2021

Boundaries are everything in life. They create thriving relationships and allow us to show up to the world as our best selves.

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There’s a collective belief that we aren’t enough in life. It’s as if someone fed us plates of bullshit when we were younger to make us feel full and we learned about self-worth and expression from meals we never liked.

I’ve written about self-worth in my new book Nowhere To Go

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These battles with self-worth are often disguised in the form of extreme confidence, perfectionism, and over-generous behaviors that leave you in a place of disempowerment because you continually place your sense of self on status and achievements. Social media, family/political views, work, and religions all challenge your beliefs in life while you fight with an internal voice that makes you feel as if you are never enough.

Can you ever win the battle? Or are you always going to put up walls that do not allow the world to see the real you? Is it possible to feel protected and connnected?

The answer to these questions is not something simple to decode. But, you can rise up and choose yourself. To do that, you must first take a look at how you were brought up.

So I want to talk about my experience with parenting a five-year-old.

What a Five-Year-Old Teaches Me About Boundaries

There’s a good chance you don’t spend a lot of time thinking about the way you grew up. If you do, you are either in therapy, facing a transition in life, or are experiencing the exciting rollercoaster of emotions that come with parenting.

As a single dad, I am beginning to see and understand how boundaries are developed. My daughter is learning about the world through two households. At first, I struggled with parenting as a single dad, but while writing my book, I was subtly and not so subtly reminded that I am the one who has the power to teach my daughter about self-worth. She is finding ways to express her own needs and wants among different backgrounds and beliefs, and everything I do in my life…

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George Kalantzis

George is a professional storyteller, a dad to a sassy and adventurous eight year-old girl, and the author Of Nowhere To Go