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What Celibacy Has Taught Me About Love and Intimacy After Divorce
It’s a big, bad world full of twists and turns, and people have a way of blinking and missing the moment — the moment that could’ve changed everything. Hank Moody
Two months post-divorce and I find myself questioning “ what’s next?”
Where is my life heading?
Who will be my future lover and partner?
Am I a good father?
Am I a good lover?
Is this career right for me?
The list goes on.
A̵s̵ ̵a̵ ̵M̵a̵r̵i̵n̵e̵,̵ ̵h̵a̵v̵i̵n̵g̵ ̵a̵ ̵m̵i̵s̵s̵i̵o̵n̵ ̵i̵n̵ ̵l̵i̵f̵e̵ ̵i̵s̵ ̵c̵r̵i̵t̵i̵c̵a̵l̵ ̵f̵o̵r̵ ̵s̵u̵r̵v̵i̵v̵a̵l̵.
Fuck that, let me rephrase “ without a mission, a man will walk through life weak, impotent, and disengaged with the world around him.
I was that man.
I went to work, but it was just a way to provide.
I had a family but was in a monotonous routine for days.
I appeared strong to the world, but inside I was weak.
My fantasy of the future was merely a story to hide all the years of unaddressed pains.
