Five Uncomfortable Truths About Divorce

George Kalantzis
7 min readSep 5, 2019
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Real love is no easy path- the readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover- Jeff Brown

If you have ever been through a divorce, you know the constant battle of shame, regret, sadness, anger, and frustration that make you doubt yourself as a human.

For months I would playback the highlight reels.

Our tears, laughter, and the birth of our daughter. I continued to reach into the past to make my feelings of hopelessness whiter away. After all, we were the perfect couple.

At least that is the story I constructed in my head.

Before filing for divorce, I constructed stores and narratives of what marriage and fatherhood would be. I tried so hard never to be like my parents. But, in the end, I was everything like them and those stories killed my relationship.

While I am still in the midst of the fire, and divorce appears to be what is an impossible solution for both parties, I’d like to share some lessons on what I learned in my process.

Love Is Earned, Not Bought



George Kalantzis

George is a professional storyteller, a dad to a sassy and adventurous eight year-old girl, and the author Of Nowhere To Go